Stephen Musings

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KERALA SOCIETY’S DETERIORATING PERSPECTIVE

Former Superintendent of Police, Ramachandran Nair P C, offered a thought-provoking reflection on the recent assault of the Trivandrum Mayor and her husband on a KSRTC driver and passengers. He highlighted the compliance of the fifteen passengers who willingly exited the bus at the couple’s command. Ramachandran believes this incident underscores a concerning trend of servitude among Keralites, indicative of a loss of self-respect and a growing spinelessness among Malayalees in recent years.

Let me share an incident that highlights the shifting mindset around us. Back in 1965, I recall a moment from my childhood in Changanacherry town. As an eleven-year-old, I accompanied our driver to drop off a relative at her home in Vazhapally. Upon our return, at Mathumoola Junction, we were stopped for a vehicle inspection. The Motor Vehicle Inspector (MVI) noticed a discrepancy in our car’s documents and instructed the driver to stay put. Despite explaining that there was a boy in the car, the MVI remained unmoved. I asked the MVI to drop me home. MVI’s assistant drove the car. During the journey, he conversed with me and made me get off at Changanacherry main junction, from where I walked home.

It was the innocence of a child that prompted me to ask the MVI to drive me home. Contrastingly, today, even a child is aware of their influence and would likely avoid such direct confrontation. If a child were to speak up, elders might swiftly apologize, fearing upshots from the ‘government servant’.

As a society, we have yielded to such changes.                       

4 responses to “KERALA SOCIETY’S DETERIORATING PERSPECTIVE”

  1. Political tirrany is the order of the day in Kerala. We the Keralites have changed our attitude to react to social injustice and harassment because of their own safety.

    Prof K J Abraham, former HoD Commerce, S B College, Changanassery

    Thanks sir. You have captured the essence of the issue

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  2. Keralites seem to have their ethos reversed as far as transaction of business is concerned with party-comrades, passing it off as the norm.

    This only re-validates the behaviour of these ‘imposters’ who exhibit their branded demeanor of their party.

    Citizens’ lack of assertiveness and misplaced docility certainly paves the way for these ‘elected’ scoundrels.

    Augustine Dias

    Thanks Dias. It adds to what former supt police said

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  3. A psycho virus (UWSP), unwillingness to speak in public, against the evil we lament in private, has taken deep roots in Malayalee.

    A side effect of selfishness.

    Manuel Cheriyan

    Thanks for comment that supplements the content

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  4. Most of us know we’re not doing enough to deal with our greatest threats. Every day, we witness the dumbest behavior, things that seem to fly in the face of our most basic survival instincts and civil codes.

    We ask, “Why??”

    Everyone thinks it won’t happen to me !

    Social psychologists Bibb Latané and John Darley popularized the concept of th  “bystander effect  “ following the infamous murder of Kitty Genovese in New York City in 1964. The 28-year-old woman was stabbed to death outside her apartment. At the time, it was reported that dozens of neighbors failed to step in to assist or call the police.

    Psychologists have attributed the bystander effect to two factors: diffusion of responsibility and social influence. The perceived diffusion of responsibility means that the more onlookers there are the less personal responsibility individuals will feel to take action. Social influence means that individuals monitor the behavior of those around them to determine how to act.

    The intervention of bystanders is often the only reason why bullying and other crimes cease. The social and behavioral paralysis described by the bystander effect can be reduced with awareness and, in some cases, explicit training. Secondary schools and college campuses must encourage students to speak up when witnessing an act of bullying or a potential assault.

    Don’t expect others to be the first to act in a crisis—just saying “Stop” can prevent further harm. If a bystander can help someone without risking their own life and chooses not to, they are usually considered morally guilty. But the average person is typically under no legal obligation to help in an emergency.

    We have a very irresponsible society which fails to respond to even the most heinous of crimes. When someone is being beaten up, or being abused or we see the neighbor is having a problem, we simply close our eyes. This is not the sign of a developed society. This is the reason why we get ruled by the corrupt leaders, knowing they are corrupt. Being guided by uneducated ministers, knowing they are uneducated. We simply have become selfish and impotent.

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