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Not on my merit but by His Grace,

The Course God charted for my life

Our life is a journey; rather a series of journeys. We embark on each journey with a destination in sight. In the end we realise that each one was part of a grand journey to a grand destination and the little stops and detours were only momentary. My own journey has had its joys, sorrows, challenges and sense of fulfilment which I consider unique. Officially now I enter my professional retirement and it is only natural to look back and recount the journey I took- my academic and professional journey- and how it all added up to a joyful consummation.

My Academic journey

At the age of 12, I aspired for priesthood and so I joined Don Bosco Aspirantate, Tirupattur, Tamil Nadu. After finishing 12th I was one among those shortlisted for Novitiate. But my father insisted that I join novitiate only after completing degree.

I applied for Engineering at REC. However the application which I received by post turned out to be blank on two of the four pages! So it fell through.  The next choice was to join an arts and science college for a degree course. Here too there was a problem. When I thought of the   BSc programme I found that it needed me to take two papers of second language either Hindi or Malayalam, which was very difficult as I had studied neither of these language papers at school. So I joined S B College for B Com, which had just one very simple Malayalam paper and I secured second rank in Kerala University.

The next plan was to do MBA. This was in 1975. I applied to join the only B school in Kerala, School of Management Studies, Cochin University. I cleared the written test, but got stuck in group discussion and personal interview. Another dream bombs. I went on to do MCom at NSS Hindu College, Changanacherry, passing out in 1977 with second rank in Kerala University.  

I secured M Phil from Calicut University in 1986 and PhD in Management from Kerala University in 2004, thanks to Faculty Improvement Programme of the UGC. I was recognised as Guide for PhD under M G University in 2009.

Professional journey

Being a teacher was the last option I had in mind. It so happened that a vacancy cropped up at SB College the very same year I completed my Masters. So I applied, was selected and appointed Lecturer in the Department of Commerce in 1977. But somehow I did not like teaching and I registered for Company Secretary Course, ACS. A couple of years into the teaching career, I realised that the students appreciated my classes. I slowly took on to this profession; or rather fell in love with it. Looking back I feel I would have been like fish out of water in any other profession.

I could serve SB as Lecturer, HOD Commerce, Vice Principal, Director of Berchmans Institute of Management Studies and finally, by a historic decision by the then Archbishop H G Mar Joseph Powathil, the first layman Principal of S B College.

On my official retirement in 2010, my successor, Rev Dr Tomy Padijarevettil requested me to continue as the Director of Berchmans Institute of Management Studies. I said it is not proper that a former Principal stays back in the campus. And as it turned out, I was appointed Director of XIME, Bangalore, thanks to Prof J Philip, the founder of XIME. After a short stint of one year at Bangalore, I joined as Dean of the newly started MBA programme at Naipunnya Institute of Management and Information Technology, Angamaly, a venture of the Archdiocese of Ernakulam and Angamaly.

In 2013 the intake of students at SB MBA programme was doubled and the Principal insisted that I come back to SB as the full time Director. After much pondering and consultation with my close associates, I decided on my second entry into S B campus in 2014. I officially bid farewell to SB Campus on 30 June 2020, after putting in 40 years of service on the campus.

Connecting the dots:: The Almighty’s divine plan

Looking back at our life we can decipher a path all through in our journeys which Steve Jobs calls as ‘connecting the dots’. I call it the Divine plan of the Almighty. I see a clear link between my academic and professional journeys.

  • I desired to be a priest, did not become one; but was placed in a post, which was occupied only by priests in the history of St Berchmans College, Changanacherry.
  • I planned to do MBA, couldn’t; but became the Director of MBA institute, which was ranked one among the top 30 B Schools in India and was the Director of the MBA programme in S B for 12 years.
  • I did not want to be a teacher, but was in the teaching profession for 43 years. Ten years more than the usual tenure. Moreover I have turned out to be a passionate advocate for this noblest of professions.
  • On retiring as Principal of S B, I refused to be on its campus to lead the MBA programme. But I did return to the campus in 2014. During the rage of the pandemic, Covid19, one of the privileges people claim is ‘work from home’. I had been enjoying this luxury of working in my own home town residing within 2 km radius of my workplace- a 10 minute drive or a 30 minute walk for 43 years of my professional life, barring three years. In fact those three years working far away from home, made me thoroughly enjoy my second innings of the six years at SB, making it the best phase in my entire career.

At this juncture, I am filled with a sense of wonder and gratitude.  I believe that God had chosen me for this – to be an academician, a teacher who became an instrument in His hands to touch many souls and guide them on their own life journeys.

God Almighty never fulfilled my desires, but granted me a career, far higher than what I desired and deserved.

I gratefully genuflect before the divine strategist

21 responses to “The Course God charted for my life”

  1. Good for a begining sir. Keep writing .

  2. Good narration.. motivating too..

  3. Sir , You are the best and your words always motivate me .

  4. A very personal, but still objective journey down the author’s memory lane.

    Beautifully presented.

  5. My dearest stephen Sir,
    This one is soo touching. Earlier, i heard from my friends that you wish to be a priest. Now every thing is clearly stated in your blog.
    This writing is so inspiring, touching and loving.
    To me, you are a model in various aspects.
    Your teaching, your approach, your language, your style, your speech, your preparation, your decision, your quality, your PhD and many more….

    With this blog…. it got a broader perspective.
    Sometimes, felt like a guru than a just teacher.

    Anyway Almighty had a divine plan in your case.

    I am lucky…..
    To study in S.B as your student…
    To get connected with you… and
    To live during your life time

    I always felt that there is a STEPHEN TOUCH in your every actions and really love it.

    Even your usage “HOPE YOU GET ME” in your class is haunting like a sweet memory.

    Thank you so much for creating values and becoming model.

    Loving
    Aravind….

  6. AJAI MATHEW APPOOSE Avatar
    AJAI MATHEW APPOOSE

    Hi Stephen sir,
    Delighted to read about your roller coaster ride of life. Had you been a priest or an MBA or a CS the loss would be for a huge number of students in SB. I remember enjoying your sessions in BCom, eagerly waiting for your questions in business quiz and above all your affection to each one of us. Its with pride I would say I was (am) a student of Dr.Stephen Mathews. You changed the perception BCom is not Below Common Sense but its B DOT COM.

    Thank you very much sir and wishing you a new success route in your retirement life.

    Ajai Mathew Appoose
    BCom – 2000 -03

  7. Dear Stephan Sir,
    Its really motivating life story.
    Your style of speaking, writing, walking and smiling has a divine touch. As you said your journey was designed by God, its absolutely right. You are a mentor & motivator with a divine signature. Keep motivating us by your words
    May God bless you, Sir
    Siju Thomas
    http://www.winlifegen.com

  8. Babu Sebastian Kainikkara Avatar
    Babu Sebastian Kainikkara

    I am privileged to have Stephen Sir as my teacher. Best wishes Sir for this new venture

  9. It’s wonderful greate journey Sir, My big salute to you respected sir. can never forget your highly sincere and methodological teachings It helped me a lot in my professional growth and to achieve a much higher level in my career.
    Wish you all the best and may God bless you abundantly.
    Jameskutty P C ( 1977-83 PDC ,B.Com batch )

  10. Dear Sir

    Nice journey down the memory lane. True to the heart and expressed well. Wish you all the best and May lord showers his choicest be leadings on you & your family…

  11. Fr.Pius John SDB Avatar
    Fr.Pius John SDB

    Hello Stephen, a wonderful article with a great reflection on your life experiences. Congratulations. I enjoyed reading it.

  12. Fr.Pius John SDB, Palam. Avatar
    Fr.Pius John SDB, Palam.

    Hello Stephen, I would like to get your articles by email. Thanks.

    1. Pius, shall share it

  13. Hi Stephen sir, Today, upon reading this article, I could learn more about you, our proud member of MAMMOOTTIL Family.
    Yes, what you said is absolutely right, God has a plan on each one of us, I am really moved by your words, as I have had similar turning points in my career as well, which were later proven as blessings.
    Wish you a happy and busy retirement life where you may spend some time motivating the younger generation with what you have learnt over the 43 years of teaching profession.
    May God bless you and family.

  14. Hello Sir, nicely written and very inspiring. So far we have seen only the end result, Prof. Dr. Stephen Mathews. It’s very inspiring to know the journey behind it. Please keep writing and motivating us. You are always an inspiration for students like us.

  15. Always inspiring and motivating for me sir.

  16. ” Complete Man ” . Period .

  17. Fr.Pius John SDB Avatar
    Fr.Pius John SDB

    Hello Stephen, can you send your article to my whatsapp – 9448656223. Thanks.

  18. Dear Sir
    Nicely written . It was a surprise to me that teaching wasnt your first choice. As a Professor, you were the best and some of the words you have spoken in the class is still ringing in my ears. The calm, assured tone and the poise & composure you maintained while delivering lectures made the Bcom class disciplined and quiet.

  19. Sr Adv Jyothis Avatar
    Sr Adv Jyothis

    This is a deeply moving reflection, dear Uncle. What touches me most is the honesty with which you have shared your journey—the unfulfilled plans, the unexpected turns, and the beautiful way everything finally fell into place.
    Your life is a clear example of how what we often see as setbacks are actually steps in a greater plan. The way you have “connected the dots” and recognized God’s hand in every stage is both inspiring and comforting.
    As your niece, I feel truly proud and grateful. Your journey is not just about achievements, but about faith, humility, and dedication to a noble calling. It speaks to anyone trying to understand their own path in life.
    Wishing you continued joy, peace, and fulfilment in this new phase of life.

    1. Thanks Sr Jyothis.

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